I had basically gave up trying and chatted more and more online with different women. I was ashamed and mad at myself for not trying harder but basically gave up after several attempts to make it work. I knew I should have moved out but did not make enough money to do it. She had worked two other banks, City National Bank and Sanwa Bank. Helped her to get a job with CompUSA. September 2001 while I was driving I experienced a Stroke caused by a blood clot. I drove myself to the hospital ER and was barely able to get out of the car since my right leg was going numb since my arm had already gone numb. They did a CAT Scan and show I was having a stroke caused by a blood clot. I was in ICU for 3 days and regular room for 2 days where I got Physical and Occupational Therapy. What upset me about my wife she took time off from work and the hospital was across the street from our house yet she hardly visited me. I had all sorts of clients and family visit me to make sure I was alright.
2003 our 25th Anniversary we went to Las Vegas and again parents would not watch our daughter. We stayed at The Venetian Resort in a mini-suite. The room was beautiful and we did not see any shows. We had our anniversary dinner at Emeril's Delmonico Steakhouse. We had wine and the final cost of the dinner was over $200. We wanted to eat at the steak house that my wife's father would eat at when they came up to Las Vegas. It was at Binion's Horseshoe in their basement. Now it was at the top of the hotel and our dinner was over $100.
Living Hell: OCT 2003 - APR 2010
I hate writing about this part since it would eventually would become one of the worst parts of my life. When we got home from Las Vegas, July 25, 2003, I thought we would have special time together but she said she was tired and was going to bed which meant no special time even though I did all the driving. I got on the computer and went to a different chat room on Yahoo. I met someone there and she was in Florida but was going to be moving back to California to be close to her mother. She was frustrated with her husband like me with my wife. I realized that she needed a lot of attention. She was a quarter Filipina, quarter Japanese and the rest was a mess. 17 year difference and her mother was 2 months older than me. She also served in the Army so she was a Vet and she made me realize to use the VA for my medical. She was married and met her husband while in the Army. She got married after 6 weeks of knowing him. She was cheating on her husband a lot with different men she met in chat rooms.
Summer 2004 my wife, daughter and I flew up to San Francisco from Burbank and landed in Oakland and had a car rental, Chevrolet Trakker. It was the first time my daughter ever been in a plane. We went to Fisherman's Wharf where I ate cioppino. The motel we stayed at was about a block from Fisherman's Wharf. We went to Pier 39 buying different things. I drove them down Lombard Street. We did other things while there. I called her and she cried saying she missed me. I felt so guilty calling her while with my family. I realized later after we separated that what we had was not love but lust. Once the lust wears off you have 2 people not caring about each other. I realize that cause me to have anger issues.
She started to cheat on her husband basically after they both got out of the Army. One of the persons she chatted with decided to leave her husband leaving her son and daughter with her husband. She never was a good mother since she had no idea how to raise children as a responsible adult. She moved back to her husband after she found out what the guy was like and had other women living with him. She told me a lot of things about herself and most of it I didn't believe was true so I lied and told stories to impress her and all it did was make me not look normal. Normal she was not. Her third husband she met before she left me and was married less than a year later. They are still married which I find amazing after all the stuff she did and lied about. I wonder if she ever told her current husband about us getting together while they were dating. She also broke up another marriage by threating to find someone else if he did not divorced his wife.
We got together after she moved back and after 2 years we moved in together in 2005. I had a hard time separating from first wife and leaving my daughter. The reason I separated was she threaten to find someone else if I did not leave my wife. She was pretty and different to be with but thinking back I should have let her find someone else and you will see why. She loved anything Disney since she work at Disney World. Once Disneyland offered Annual Pass she wanted to get it since she was Disney Fanatic. I had to buy Annual Pass for other places. She was a Fast Food Junkie. Pic below is of my Kawasaki Vulcan Classic 1500 with straight pipes. It was as loud and louder than a Harley-Davidson. Every November after that we rode in the Love Ride sponsored by Glendale Harley-Davidson with Grand Marshall Jay Leno. My father passed away September 2007. She also was jealous when I went to spend time with my daughter thinking I do something with my soon to be ex wife. I realized she was not playing with full deck of how she thought plus she was insecure and needed constant attention.
November 11, 2007 was Veteran's Day. I proposed to her on stage in Glendale with Jay Leno on stage in front of thousands of motorcyclist. Most Love Rides had close to 20,000 riders. She had picked out her engagement ring which was not right. In August 2008 I went to VA for a treadmill because when I walked I noticed I was short of breath. While taking the treadmill they stopped me and had to get the pulmonary doctor on call. She told me that my blood pressure was dropping and told me to get over to the West Los Angeles VA Hospital. I had to spend the weekend and Monday was Labor Day. On Tuesday I had angiogram and they said I had 2 block, one 90% and one 80% blocked arteries. I would need open heart surgery (quad bypass) on September 4. I was finally able to go home on September 18. She wanted to get married before surgery but I didn't feel right about it. She also wanted to get pregnant but I saw how she was raising her own kids and there was no way I wanted to have children with her. She brought my daughter to see me and my brother came by to see me before surgery.
Her friends kept asking when we were getting married so I did something stupid. I got fed up so I told her to tell her friends we were getting married. We went to Las Vegas a month before the wedding and made reservation at the Riviera Hotel & Casino Wedding Chapel. I wanted a very simple wedding with no dressing up among other things. Her mother got involved and I ended up wearing a suit and she borrowed a wedding gown. Her son was my best man and my daughter was her maid of honor. Riviera eventually was closed and torn down and her son ran away a lot and used drugs plus stole from us. Got married on Valentine's Day and saw Jay Leno that night performing. I sort of still like Valentine's Day because of whom I'm with now. Six months into marriage she started cheating on me. I knew something was up when she was going out at night something she never did after we moved in together. After my open heart surgery I was not in the mood and she was boring in bed. She had cheated a lot before she met me and made a promise she never do it ever again. She can't keep a simple promise.
Senior pic of my daughter. Me, Juan del Castillo and my daughter. Juan is the lead singer of the Journey Tribute band DSB (Don't Stop Believin). Sounds a lot like Steve Perry and my daughter been wanting to see them. We went to Warner Center Park for the free summer concert. My daughter's prom dress and she and her friends rented a limo. Her graduation pic and me and her at the Ronald Reagan Library.
With my second wife I saw 2 comedians, Mark Eddie & Craig "The Lovemaster" Shoemaker and saw 2 concerts, Journey & Heart.