2009 - 2019

My daughter thought she was cool until she finally got to know her. She used my daughter like she used me. In March 2010 she went to Las Vegas with friends. I was getting help with my anger issues at the VA and one on one counseling for my depression. They gave me a prescription to help me stay calm. When she came back from Las Vegas she told me we were separating. She was moving out with help of her mother as a co-signer on the apartment lease and car loan. She ruined cars she had because she drove them hard and fast. I had to find a place to live so I rented a room in a house. She was very good at lying and smiling while lying and cheating on you. She had a way of making you believe in her with her smile. Lesson learned the hard way. She was also crazy jealous and told me one time she took some stuff of her ex husband's girlfriend. She also took my wedding band from my first wife. Like I said she was crazy and had trust issues and very good at lying. Her and her husband have been married for over 10 years, that is a miracle it lasted this long. She has insecurity issues which is why she always needed to have someone in her life. She told me she would go through my wallet, my brief case and go on my computer to see if I was cheating on her even though she was cheating on me. She was one CRAZY B*TCH!

While separated she still used me and I could not see it because of my depression and anger. In April we were chatting online and she was getting me angry with all her lies. I lied a lot to impress her and told her things I never did and was not proud of it. But deep inside of me I never really trusted her because of her past. While we chatted I took pills to calm me and I knew I took too many but didn't care. I told her I need to get something to eat she said I should not drive. I told her she could not tell me what to do. I got in my car and all I remember is waking up seeing lights from police and others. Fell back asleep and when I woke up again I was in a hospital with two CHP (California Highway Patrol) officers waiting for me. They handcuffed me and took me to downtown Los Angeles to spend the night in jail. When they released me I called her to come pick me up and she refused. I had to pay someone to drive me home. Once home I got on my motorcycle and went to see my car and saw it was totaled.

That night I chatted with her and told her what I thought of her. I told her I was fed up with her and my life and I was looking at the bottle of pills. I said good bye and she said what did I mean by that and I said nothing and left. I took the whole bottle of pills and laid down in bed. She came over while I was out and called an ambulance. I was taken to the hospital where they pump my stomach. When I woke up I was in the VA Hospital Emergency Psych Ward. While there she visited me and said she wanted a divorce. I was fine with that. I actually was happy and no longer angry. I did not have to put up with her lies and BS. I did a very stupid thing and got my first tattoo with her name on it. She said early in the relationship she was my soulmate and for some reason I didn't feel it but said it back to her to keep her happy. I realize our relationship was one sided, it was all about her and I was tired of it. She wanted to keep my last name. I would not allow it since she did not earn it. My first wife earned the right to have my last name. One last thing I didn't like the most of all was sushi and again I pretended I liked it to make her happy. I've have not eaten any in over 13 years or more. After we separated I started to date black women because I had more fun with them and enjoy their company more.. 

November 6, 2010 divorce was final and I was free from her forever. I've no idea where she lives but she already had someone already lined up to take my place. She did the same thing to him she did to me either get a divorced or she find someone else. Because of her wanting to go to Disneyland so much that I never want to go there ever again for any reason. She also borrowed our big tent I bought us. When I asked for it back she LIED to me saying it got broke. There was no way to break that tent unless she let her son put it together or take apart. He was not very good at anything. High school drop out who rather get high than go to school. She had no idea how to be a mother to her children. She wanted them to be her best friend and I saw how she spoiled her kids because of it. She was also was immature and so was I because we wanted one thing from each other. She was 15 years old the first time and she used it to manipulate what she wanted. It was my biggest mistake and regret in my life but it was a learning experience I grew and matured from it.

 

With the divorce being final and I had no desire to be around her anymore or near her. I wanted to move back to the Bay Area in Northern California where I grew up off and on until I was 16. I know it was better than Southern California. I was not able to be the real me with her and she was very manipulative of my emotions and feelings. I was fed up with it and her and I thank god everyday that it's over. My daughter is so glad I'm no longer with her and loves who is in my life now. My first wife did not like her and the new love in my life hopes she never meets her because she will put a serious hurt on her.

There is one thing I do HATE about her. She did not allow me to pay partial rent for my ex wife's storage unit. My daughter wanted to go through it to get things she wanted. Since I could not pay them, my daughter lost her High School Diploma, Senior Class picture and her Senior Year yearbook plus other things. I will never forgive my second ex wife. She was very selfish and self center person who only thought of her self and never thought of anyone else unless she got something from it. She also was the housewife, she could not cook and prefer to eat fast food and at restaurant Susan was a great housewife she knew how to take care of a house. Something she would never do and never will.

 

I started to see other women I met on Craig's List. I had one steady who was black but the thing I did not like about her was she was into money since she was once a mortgage broker who use to make 6 figures. She had gone through a divorce and she was living with her father in Compton where I would pick her up using my first ex car. My first ex was going through her own physical and medical problems. She got gangrene on her left foot and lost all her toes and part of her left foot. She had diabetes and didn't know it. She had to go through rehab and lived in downtown Los Angeles for a bit. I would take my daughter to see her. The lady I was seeing, we broke up before Thanksgiving and it did not bother me since she was looking for someone with money. Thanksgiving was spent with my first ex and daughter and I cooked for them.

November 2010 I rode in my last Love Ride by myself. Rode from Glendale Harley-Davidson to Calamigos Ranch in Malibu. This was the first place the Love Ride went to when it started. Pic of me with Jay Leno and told him I was divorced. He said that didn't last long and my response she was a controller and a user. I told him I'm so glad she is out of my life for good.

In January 2011 I used a dating website for free. January 15 I joined for 3 months and I saw the pic above on the right and read her profile several times. The next day she contacted me on the website and we started chatting a lot to each other. She ask me questions from her profile to see if I read it which I did. Others she had chatted with before me she asked questions and they could not answer since all they saw was one thing well actually two if you know what I mean in her pic and that is what they focused on. They were all thinking with the wrong head like I use to. She gave me her phone number and we started talking to each other all the time. We found out we had a lot more common than normal and sometimes say things at the same time. I decided to rent a car on Feb. 4 to Feb 6. My birthday was in between those dates. I got the car early and started driving up to Antioch. While driving up I would call her to tell her know where I was at but I  could hear the doubt in her voice. When I got up there I went to Motel 6 in Pittsburgh to check in.

Once checked in I went to her place. I called her to come outside and she asked why and I said just come outside. She walked outside and her mouth dropped because I was actually there. She had a few men before me said they meet with her and never showed up. I told her I was coming up to meet you and here I am. We hugged each other. It was one of the best birthday weekends I ever had up to that point. We saw a movie together, Mechanic with Jason Statham, one of her favorite actors. I met her youngest and middle son. I had to ask them if the next time I came up if I could stay there and they had no problem with me. She has 3 sons and at the time 2 were living at home.

The below pic on the left was taken Feb. 6 before I left to drive back home to Duarte to my lonely lousy room. I got a VOID stamp tattoo over my second ex name. The tattoo artist laughed and told the other artist to look at it and they all loved it. I also heard that someone didn't like me putting the VOID over the other tattoo. Like I really care what they think at all.

April 20 I decided to get another tattoo on my other arm for Angie. Japanese & Chinese means LOVE.

The more we talked and saw each other the more I fell in love with her. I have never met a woman with so much inner strength and so secure within them self. She was the exact opposite of my second ex. She was so much more mature and 14 year difference in our ages. She was also very intelligent. Someone I could actually have an intelligent conversation with. She had several degrees for medical billing but could not get any work in that area since they wanted you to have experience. How the hell can you get experience if you won't hire. She was always top of her class which was why I love talking to her since she was one very smart lady, something new for me.

One weekend I came up with all the pics I had of my second ex and me. She loved having pics taken of her and of us. She wanted to show her friends and family what she was doing. I found out that most of her friends and family didn't like me but the feeling was mutual. She was very insecure, wanted to be center of attention and had no inner strength or how to deal with reality. That is why she wanted to spend so much time at Disneyland. She found someone on line and eventually married someone who was the same way. I got rid of all the pics plus I deleted all pics from my computer and camera. This is why you will not see any pics of her on here. I want to forget about the worse 7 years of my life because what she did to me and caused me to try to do to myself. My daughter didn't talk to me for awhile but I apologize and told her I was sorry. I was only thinking of myself and not how it would affect others. I admit it was very stupid and selfish of me.

One main thing I learned from my last two marriages was communication. Not only about the job but other things in life. First marriage we grew apart and second communication about her and rarely about me. With Angie we were able to talk about anything and everything. It was amazing to finally find someone who was able to communicate and listen and enjoyed thoroughly. The other thing was I matured and was not focused on one thing like my second marriage. It was relief and pressure off me to finally find someone I had a lot in common with.

I try to go up each month by renting a car and we saw movies and ate out and had lots of fun with each other. Sept I went up and we spent time in San Francisco. We had so much fun there and got a few souvenirs. Early in 2012 I could not afford to rent a car so I took a train up there. I would take the Duarte free bus to a bus stop for the Foothill Transit to take it to Pasadena. I got off in Pasadena and walked to the AMTRAK bus stop that took me up to Bakersfield and took the train to Antioch. Angie would meet me at the train station and take me to her house.

The picture on the left was when we in 2011 we saw Night Ranger, Foreigner and Journey with their current singer. Angie loves Steve Perry's voice and that was the fourth time I saw them and the past. Twice pre Steve Perry and twice after Steve Perry left. I regret not seeing them with Steve Perry but it was due to my first wife was more into Oldies where I was into Classic Rock. The picture on the right was another when I was getting ready to leave her to go back home.

May 2012 we moved in together. We were both unemployed so we were together 24/7. In January 2013 she went to her doctor's for her annual exam. Once she got her results back she decided she wanted to deal with it on her own. I realized we had moved in together too soon and I still had issues to deal with from my second marriage. I had to find a place to live and a former school mate said she had a room in her house. Problem was I had to move to Carson City, NV. I was doing jobs for her by going on ships and doing drug testing which meant collecting urine from the crew. 

Angie in her prom dress she made in 1985.

Near the end of 2012 I contacted an artist in the Bay Area, Les Toil, that did BBW (Big Beautiful Woman) as Pin Up Girls. I put a link to his website on my website, http://www.bbwfriendly.com/les-toil.html plus his website, https://www.toilgirls.com/ I told him what she wanted to use the color purple and her favorite rose, white.

When he does a pic, you become a Toil Girl. I made Angie BBW Friendly's Toil Girl. She is the background on all my pages on my website.

In March 2013 I was on my way to do some drug testing on a ship at Chevron in Richmond. I missed the on ramp to a freeway I needed to take and did not see the preventative curb. It was low and could not see it due to being the same color as the pavement. I was riding my motorcycle when I hit the curb. My motorcycle went one way and me the other way rolling down the highway about 20 feet or more. The pic of my helmet gives you an idea how bad it was or could have been. I wore leather gloves, heavy leather jacket, blue jeans and leather shoes. An off duty paramedic pulled over to check me out and CHP showed up and told them what happen. They said you cannot see the preventive curb and were going to talk to Cal Trans about it. The ambulance came and took me to the hospital ER and the 2 days in ICU and one day in a regular room and was given a walker to help me walk. I still have that walker to this day and use it at home or when I go out for transfer to and from car and wheelchair.

April 2013 I packed up a moving van and started the drive to Carson City, NV with tears in my eyes. The school mate was happy to see me and she was the one I was doing the drug screening for. I eventually found out she was conservative and hard core Fox News believer. The one thing most people don't know that the real news are registered as news programs and Fox News is listed as entertainment. That means most news is not factual with only one point of view. I had no form of transportation so I had to take the bus then bicycle and bus.

These pics of Angie help me get through the two years and four months in the red state of Nevada. While there I had one part time job that owner use a DOS software for his accounting software and a dot matrix printer. He used a laser printer to print up the payroll checks. The next job was part time bookkeeper at Friends In Service Helping (F.I.S.H.). It was for low income and homeless with it's own food bank and shelters. https://www.nvfish.com/ Thanks to that job I was able to get a loan for a car, 2002 Saturn Vue V6 AWD (All Wheel Drive). I finally moved back to Angie in late August 2015. I was so glad to get away because it was the kind of place I would not want to stay or live in.

August 30, 2015 here I am in the Jack in the Box parking lot getting something before I hit the road to drive back to Angie in Antioch. Here is the U-Haul towing my car and ready to get back to Angie.

While in Carson City I volunteered at the Nevada State Railroad Museum in Carson City. I worked Sunday at the Gift Store. I  got to ride on the different trains there. I rode in the cabin in the pic above on one of its runs. https://carsonrailroadmuseum.org/

January 16, 2016 we were at Lucille's in Concord at the Sun Valley Mall. We would go there before any concert we went to. I proposed to Angie and she accepted and I let her know I called her father to ask for her hand in marriage. It was also our 5th Anniversary of when we met on line. I felt she was my soul mate and I truly love her and wanted to make her happy and spend the rest of our lives together.

Summer of 2016 I took Angie camping for the first time and we went to a place her friend recommended. It was a State Park and it was near the Delta. It was about 10-15 miles or more from her home. It was not a very good place and there was family reunion going on across the road from us. They were going at it at 2 am in the morning and I yelled and swore at them. They got quiet and I reported them to the rangers. Angie said she did not want to go camping ever again but I told her I promise I will find a place she will like.

Angie and I saw 3 comedians, Craig "The Lovemaster" Shoemaker twice, Loni Love & D.L.  Hughley. We saw Brian McKnight 3 times who use to be Angie's favorite singer. We saw Earth, Wind & Fire 3 times. Once at Thunder Valley Casino & Resort Outdoor Concert. Next we saw them at the Concord Pavilion with Chicago. The last time we saw them September 2019 at they Hollywood Bowl with the Hollywood Symphony Orchestra and in the end there were fireworks for their 50th Anniversary of being together.

 

March 2017 I finally got a permanent job at Bay Saw & Tool Repair : Home Page plus they installed stand by generators. I was there full time bookkeeper and eventually on-site manager.

August 2017 we went to Winchester Mystery House in San Jose. We went on 2 tours, the regular tour and special tour which we saw more of the house with rooms not done or in progress.

December 2017 I took Angie and my daughter to Knott's Berry Farm since me and Angie got in free and my daughter got in at a discount for Veteran's Day. Below  you can see the t-shirts me and Angie wore.

May 2018 I took Angie and my daughter to Universal Studio. It was a late birthday present for my daughter. I told her she could buy anything she wanted. Since she is a big Harry Potter fan she got a magic wand. The pic on the right we are in the back row me in the middle, daughter on my right and Angie is on my daughter's right.

July 1, 2018 we got the shock of our lives when Angie's younger sister served us paper to vacate the house we were living in, in 60 days. It was also Angie's youngest son's birthday and they gave the papers to him since he was outside. She has been living there for almost 13 years and she has been unemployed. We had been trying to save money so we could move out. Her youngest sister is a fraternal twin, one who own the house was going to sell it since they owed money from not reporting the rental income plus had to sell their business because they did not report sales tax properly, talk about Karma. The other twin was the spy, whatever was going on with Angie she would tell her sister. It finally ended when Angie got severe acid reflux episode caused by her sister's false accusations. I had to leave work to get her at the motel and take her to Kaiser ER. We were there for almost 3 hours. She had enough of them so she changed her phone number and did not give it to them. We found a small apartment complex and I took an advance from work to pay for rent and security deposit. We moved in on Thanksgiving on the second floor. We had all our stuff in storage and we took what we would need to move in with. We still have a lot in storage since we lived in house before. I miss not being able to BBQ on our Char-Broil four burner & stove top and use our Char-Broil smoker which is electric and burns wood chips. I can control it on my phone with an app.

July 2018 I took Angie camping again this time in the Santa Cruz Mountains where the oldest state park was. We went to Big Basin Redwood State Park and she loved it there. Pics of the tent I got to replace the one my second ex kept. Trees in our area where we camped. Had our picture taken in a redwood that is the most popular spot there near the main entrance.

This is what's left after the CZU Lightning Complex wildfire in August & September 2020 from the above this pic with us in it.

January to June 2019 Angie went to Opportunity Junction https://www.opportunityjunction.org/ to learn the tools needed to help her get a job. Study interviews, resumes, business writing and Microsoft Office software. The above pic is of her graduation. First job she got through them was at First Baptist Church in Pittsburg as a secretary. While working there she saw a job available for Head Start http://firstbaptistheadstart.org/locations/. She went for initial interview and a second interview with several people and she got the job and started in August 2019. She worked in the data input into the cloud for all the students and was very knowledgeable and thorough. They depend a lot on her cause she knows what needs to be done and what is allowed and not allowed.

We went to several festivals that are very popular. Gilroy Garlic Festival and Castroville Artichoke Festival held at the Monterey County Fair Grounds. We spent the weekend at Monterey. Went to the Monterey Bay Aquarium which is way over price, walked around Cannery Row and we had dinner at Bubba Gump Shrimp Co. restaurant which was great. We have eaten at Joe's Crab Shack in San Francisco, which is now closed. She never had lobster so we ate at the Red Lobster and she loved it. She loves Jersey Mike but the closest to us is less than 20 miles. She tried foods she never had before since her ex was not into that kind of food.